Sometime in our life we all have had that special angel that lifted us up with their wings when ours would not fly. I know I have had many angels to help me throughout my life. It may be just a phone call at the right time, something someone said, or a feeling that someone is with you.
Whatever it is we all have had these times.
I would like your stories for a new book project.
Please send me any inspirational stories you have.
If selected for the book project you could be compensated for your information in the way of a donation to your selected charity.
All proceeds from this book will be donated to charity.
Please submit your story here.
Thanks for your support and encouragement.
Jeff
The Ten to One Rule of Communication
Communication is PERSONAL.
It has to be, it can be no other way.
When we communicate to anyone it is always either about us, or about them.
Try this experiment for a few days and see if it doesn't give you a new awareness to life, your problems, and the problems of others.
Listen to ten words for every one word you speak.
You don't need to actually count the words out, but become aware of your actions to speak more than you listen.
We all do it. Let's face it. Our life is about us, and we want to tell everyone about it. Avoid this.
Most people feel the same way, they may show some concern for what you are telling them but remember your life is about you, and they feel the same way about their life.
It is about them and they want to tell you about it.
When you listen more than you speak you become the world's greatest listener, confidante, and friend.
What a way to live. The feelings you will receive from being that special person to others will far out weigh whatever you wanted to share with them. Surprisingly enough there will come a point in the relationship that they will be there for you in a stronger way than before just because of you willingness to listen to them.
The Ten to One Rule of Communication.
Try it.
It has to be, it can be no other way.
When we communicate to anyone it is always either about us, or about them.
Try this experiment for a few days and see if it doesn't give you a new awareness to life, your problems, and the problems of others.
Listen to ten words for every one word you speak.
You don't need to actually count the words out, but become aware of your actions to speak more than you listen.
We all do it. Let's face it. Our life is about us, and we want to tell everyone about it. Avoid this.
Most people feel the same way, they may show some concern for what you are telling them but remember your life is about you, and they feel the same way about their life.
It is about them and they want to tell you about it.
When you listen more than you speak you become the world's greatest listener, confidante, and friend.
What a way to live. The feelings you will receive from being that special person to others will far out weigh whatever you wanted to share with them. Surprisingly enough there will come a point in the relationship that they will be there for you in a stronger way than before just because of you willingness to listen to them.
The Ten to One Rule of Communication.
Try it.
A Note From a Friend
I received this today from my friend Karim Hajee and thought you would enjoy.
Every one of us has had somebody who made an impact in our lives.
It could be a teacher, friend, parent, or sibling - somebody who really made a positive impact and helped you at some point.
That person made an impact just because they cared or wanted to help. They really didn't expect anything in return.
Now it's your turn to make an impact.
Why?
Because when you give, when you make a difference, when you make a positive impact on at least one person's life - you will attract positive situations, positive people and more positive opportunities that will allow you to create the life you want.
Because you attract what you are and you attract what you give.
So the next time you run into an old friend or come across somebody who may need a hand - take the time to have a positive impact, give from your heart - knowing you will be helping somebody else and creating positive situations in your life.
Start making an impact today.
Be the person who makes a difference in people's lives.
Make an Impact.
Everyday you come across who could help you in some small or large way.
But how often do you make an impact on somebodies life - with the intention of making an impact?
You're probably like most people - just trying to get through the day and not really paying attention to the people that cross your path. Yet everyday you have an opportunity to do something significant -to help somebody you know or don't know - only because it's what we as human beings should be doing everyday.
By making a positive impact - you automatically create positive energy and good things happen to those with positive energy.
Why?
When you generate positive energy you attract more positive situations into your life. It's like being a magnet for positive things.
But there is a catch - you have to do this because you truly want to help someone in some small or large way.
You can't do it because you want to attract positive situations into your life - that will naturally happen.
You have to do it because you want to and because you feel it is what you should do.
I know some of you may say: "Karim, I've been helping people for years - but I don't see anyone helping me. Why should I bother now?"
It's not about people helping you - it's about you making a positive impact.
If you truly feel that you have been helping people, making an impact and you haven't been attracting positive situations, or positive events, or positive people into our life - then take a closer look at your intentions.
Do you really do things to help other people simply because you wanted to - or did you expect something in return?
Next - take a look at the opportunities that came your way - did you follow up on them?
Did you examine the opportunities that came your way or did you dismiss them - thinking that they weren't for you?
Take a look at the people that you've met - did you develop friendships, follow up with them or did you ignore them, dismiss them, and assume that they weren't the kind of people that you would help you?
Often we dismiss events, opportunities and people thinking we know better, or that we know what is going to unfold.
The truth is - we don't.
You don't have to make a big impact. Make a small impact and build from there.You don't have to give somebody money - especially if you can't afford it. Give your time, your understanding, your knowledge.
Give somebody a hand with their shopping bags.Open a door for somebody who has their hands full. Listen to your son/daughter the next time they talk to you. Take a moment to smile before getting angry (you probably won't get angry if you tried this). Give some of your time - you don't have to give money.
Share your time. Share your wisdom.
Be pleasant to a stranger. Offer some kind words to a colleague or family member. Make a positive impact by committing to help somebody everyday. Force yourself to look for the positive aspect of every situation.
Instruct your subconscious mind to help you meet the people and attract the situations that lead to success. Create a positive mindset and that will attract more positive situations into your life.
Getting Results
By doing what I suggest - you'll immediately start to feel better about your life and your situation.
Then you'll begin to see new opportunities come your way. You'll meet new people and go to new events. Pay attention to them - they'll help you improve your life. Don't assume that you know whether they will or won't work for you- because you don't.
Everything you come across and every person you meet can help you -but only if you are open minded and willing to explore the opportunity.
Focus on making the right decisions. Get your subconscious mind to help you attract the right situations and people that can help you improve your life. You can do this by not worrying about making the wrong decision. Instead, constantly think of making only the right decisions. Tell yourself that you are making the right choices.
Be Consistent
You have to be consistent - and that means continuing to make an impact, continuing to help and make a difference everyday no matter what mood you are in - force yourself if you have to - so that you make a positive impact in some way - everyday!
Make a commitment to make an impact everyday throughout your life.
Try it for a full year and see how your life changes or improves.
When you make an impact regularly - you will continually attract the people, situations and events that will help you achieve your goals and live the life you want.
Make an impact. Make a difference.Give something that will help somebody you know or don't know.
Do this from your heart - with no expectations.
As soon as you start you'll get your subconscious mind working on bringing you the people and events that will help you live the life you want.
Look for the positive in every situation.Change the way you see things - consider everything an opportunity.Consider everybody you meet as a chance for you to help them. Start creating the life you want today - visit:http://www.creatingpower.com/news.htm
Karim Hajee
Every one of us has had somebody who made an impact in our lives.
It could be a teacher, friend, parent, or sibling - somebody who really made a positive impact and helped you at some point.
That person made an impact just because they cared or wanted to help. They really didn't expect anything in return.
Now it's your turn to make an impact.
Why?
Because when you give, when you make a difference, when you make a positive impact on at least one person's life - you will attract positive situations, positive people and more positive opportunities that will allow you to create the life you want.
Because you attract what you are and you attract what you give.
So the next time you run into an old friend or come across somebody who may need a hand - take the time to have a positive impact, give from your heart - knowing you will be helping somebody else and creating positive situations in your life.
Start making an impact today.
Be the person who makes a difference in people's lives.
Make an Impact.
Everyday you come across who could help you in some small or large way.
But how often do you make an impact on somebodies life - with the intention of making an impact?
You're probably like most people - just trying to get through the day and not really paying attention to the people that cross your path. Yet everyday you have an opportunity to do something significant -to help somebody you know or don't know - only because it's what we as human beings should be doing everyday.
By making a positive impact - you automatically create positive energy and good things happen to those with positive energy.
Why?
When you generate positive energy you attract more positive situations into your life. It's like being a magnet for positive things.
But there is a catch - you have to do this because you truly want to help someone in some small or large way.
You can't do it because you want to attract positive situations into your life - that will naturally happen.
You have to do it because you want to and because you feel it is what you should do.
I know some of you may say: "Karim, I've been helping people for years - but I don't see anyone helping me. Why should I bother now?"
It's not about people helping you - it's about you making a positive impact.
If you truly feel that you have been helping people, making an impact and you haven't been attracting positive situations, or positive events, or positive people into our life - then take a closer look at your intentions.
Do you really do things to help other people simply because you wanted to - or did you expect something in return?
Next - take a look at the opportunities that came your way - did you follow up on them?
Did you examine the opportunities that came your way or did you dismiss them - thinking that they weren't for you?
Take a look at the people that you've met - did you develop friendships, follow up with them or did you ignore them, dismiss them, and assume that they weren't the kind of people that you would help you?
Often we dismiss events, opportunities and people thinking we know better, or that we know what is going to unfold.
The truth is - we don't.
You don't have to make a big impact. Make a small impact and build from there.You don't have to give somebody money - especially if you can't afford it. Give your time, your understanding, your knowledge.
Give somebody a hand with their shopping bags.Open a door for somebody who has their hands full. Listen to your son/daughter the next time they talk to you. Take a moment to smile before getting angry (you probably won't get angry if you tried this). Give some of your time - you don't have to give money.
Share your time. Share your wisdom.
Be pleasant to a stranger. Offer some kind words to a colleague or family member. Make a positive impact by committing to help somebody everyday. Force yourself to look for the positive aspect of every situation.
Instruct your subconscious mind to help you meet the people and attract the situations that lead to success. Create a positive mindset and that will attract more positive situations into your life.
Getting Results
By doing what I suggest - you'll immediately start to feel better about your life and your situation.
Then you'll begin to see new opportunities come your way. You'll meet new people and go to new events. Pay attention to them - they'll help you improve your life. Don't assume that you know whether they will or won't work for you- because you don't.
Everything you come across and every person you meet can help you -but only if you are open minded and willing to explore the opportunity.
Focus on making the right decisions. Get your subconscious mind to help you attract the right situations and people that can help you improve your life. You can do this by not worrying about making the wrong decision. Instead, constantly think of making only the right decisions. Tell yourself that you are making the right choices.
Be Consistent
You have to be consistent - and that means continuing to make an impact, continuing to help and make a difference everyday no matter what mood you are in - force yourself if you have to - so that you make a positive impact in some way - everyday!
Make a commitment to make an impact everyday throughout your life.
Try it for a full year and see how your life changes or improves.
When you make an impact regularly - you will continually attract the people, situations and events that will help you achieve your goals and live the life you want.
Make an impact. Make a difference.Give something that will help somebody you know or don't know.
Do this from your heart - with no expectations.
As soon as you start you'll get your subconscious mind working on bringing you the people and events that will help you live the life you want.
Look for the positive in every situation.Change the way you see things - consider everything an opportunity.Consider everybody you meet as a chance for you to help them. Start creating the life you want today - visit:http://www.creatingpower.com/news.htm
Karim Hajee
The Greatest Gift by Dr. Shoshanna
*** Article: The Greatest Gift -- What Is It? - By Dr. Brenda Shoshanna ***
The greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves -- being who we are.
For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real. At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the trouble that arises in relationships is because we are unwilling to do this. We think the games we play protect us, though they are actually the cause of the problems we have. Our need for real contact is so strong that when it is not there, our partner can easily feel lonely, rejected, or as though they don't matter much.
There are all kinds of ways we keep the games going. Instead of finding out who our partner truly is, or what they really need from us, when something happens we don't like, we rush to label them. They become an object to us, a stranger, or opponent in some way. Before we give them a chance to reveal themselves, we throw them away. In this way, we constantly separate ourselves from one another and then wonder why we feel so alone.
The biggest need we all have is to stop playing games, trust who we are, and realize that each person who comes into our lives is there for a reason; they are worth knowing truly. We must learn to build bridges between ourselves and them; allow open communication to take place.
When we are unwilling to do this, it is usually because we are hiding, afraid of being known.How to Let Go of the Games We PlayTo start on our journey of becoming real, it is useful to look closely at the roles we play -- the fantasies we so cherish. These roles are often exactly what get in our way. Roles can be hypnotic; it is easy to fall in love with a role or fantasy and begin to believe it is who we truly are. Or, more commonly, we fall in love with the role someone else is playing, become mesmerized by it, and have no idea at all who the real person is. When that happens, we are not falling in love with the person but with the fantasy they are creating for us.
It can and does come as quite a shock when things change, and one day, we find out who they truly are. At this point, many relationships get rocky. There are many reasons it may feel dangerous to let go of a role or image. For some, the idea of being true has become confused with the idea of being selfish, not caring about the feelings of others. Oddly enough, just the opposite is so. When we are able to respond truthfully, real caring can begin to arise.
On the other hand, when we act from our roles and games, we are implicitly demanding this kind of false response from others. This way of relating is deadening, and takes the enthusiasm, fun, and aliveness away. Everything becomes predictable. Boredom sets in.The biggest danger of being lost in a role is that we lose touch with the reality of who we really are and what's going on, both for ourselves and others. An incredible amount of misunderstanding comes about when we are glued to a particular fantasy or role.
Unglue yourself a little.
In order to unglue ourselves from the usual roles we play, it is helpful to step into another's shoes. Try seeing the situation from your partner's point of view. Pretend you are them for a few moments. What would you need or want if that were true? Look at yourself through their eyes. You may be in for quite a surprise. As our compassion for and understanding of others increases, our stereotyped reactions melt away.
We constantly need to broaden our horizons.
No relationship can stay the same forever.
If it does grow, it begins to fade. If we do not expand, we begin to atrophy as well. As we become real and respond from the truth of who we are, a sense of fresh possibilities, flexibility, and aliveness comes to us. It brings excitement and adventure as well.
This is a surefire way to bring the greatest gift, both to others and to ourselves.
Cc/author/2007 About the Author:Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, in Dr. Shoshanna's top e-book "Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)" -- http://www.truthaboutlove.com. Psychologist, relationship expert, speaker, and noted author has helped thousands become stable, strong, and fulfilled. Get free ezine and reports at http://www.brendashoshanna.com. Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com
The greatest gift we can give one another in a relationship is our true selves -- being who we are.
For some this is not difficult, but for most it takes practice to take off the masks and become real. At first it can seem frightening to stop playing games, and just be. However, much of the trouble that arises in relationships is because we are unwilling to do this. We think the games we play protect us, though they are actually the cause of the problems we have. Our need for real contact is so strong that when it is not there, our partner can easily feel lonely, rejected, or as though they don't matter much.
There are all kinds of ways we keep the games going. Instead of finding out who our partner truly is, or what they really need from us, when something happens we don't like, we rush to label them. They become an object to us, a stranger, or opponent in some way. Before we give them a chance to reveal themselves, we throw them away. In this way, we constantly separate ourselves from one another and then wonder why we feel so alone.
The biggest need we all have is to stop playing games, trust who we are, and realize that each person who comes into our lives is there for a reason; they are worth knowing truly. We must learn to build bridges between ourselves and them; allow open communication to take place.
When we are unwilling to do this, it is usually because we are hiding, afraid of being known.How to Let Go of the Games We PlayTo start on our journey of becoming real, it is useful to look closely at the roles we play -- the fantasies we so cherish. These roles are often exactly what get in our way. Roles can be hypnotic; it is easy to fall in love with a role or fantasy and begin to believe it is who we truly are. Or, more commonly, we fall in love with the role someone else is playing, become mesmerized by it, and have no idea at all who the real person is. When that happens, we are not falling in love with the person but with the fantasy they are creating for us.
It can and does come as quite a shock when things change, and one day, we find out who they truly are. At this point, many relationships get rocky. There are many reasons it may feel dangerous to let go of a role or image. For some, the idea of being true has become confused with the idea of being selfish, not caring about the feelings of others. Oddly enough, just the opposite is so. When we are able to respond truthfully, real caring can begin to arise.
On the other hand, when we act from our roles and games, we are implicitly demanding this kind of false response from others. This way of relating is deadening, and takes the enthusiasm, fun, and aliveness away. Everything becomes predictable. Boredom sets in.The biggest danger of being lost in a role is that we lose touch with the reality of who we really are and what's going on, both for ourselves and others. An incredible amount of misunderstanding comes about when we are glued to a particular fantasy or role.
Unglue yourself a little.
In order to unglue ourselves from the usual roles we play, it is helpful to step into another's shoes. Try seeing the situation from your partner's point of view. Pretend you are them for a few moments. What would you need or want if that were true? Look at yourself through their eyes. You may be in for quite a surprise. As our compassion for and understanding of others increases, our stereotyped reactions melt away.
We constantly need to broaden our horizons.
No relationship can stay the same forever.
If it does grow, it begins to fade. If we do not expand, we begin to atrophy as well. As we become real and respond from the truth of who we are, a sense of fresh possibilities, flexibility, and aliveness comes to us. It brings excitement and adventure as well.
This is a surefire way to bring the greatest gift, both to others and to ourselves.
Cc/author/2007 About the Author:Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship, in Dr. Shoshanna's top e-book "Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)" -- http://www.truthaboutlove.com. Psychologist, relationship expert, speaker, and noted author has helped thousands become stable, strong, and fulfilled. Get free ezine and reports at http://www.brendashoshanna.com. Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com
Your Relationship with Yourself
When was the last time you scheduled an appointment with yourself?
You know time to reflect on your life.
Your spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the most important person in your life.
So when was the last time you had a heart to heart talk with you?
If your like most of us it has most likely been longer than you will admit.
Why do we avoid having the hard conversations?
What are we avoiding?
How much better would we be if we worked to develop an honest relationship with our self?
Ask yourself the hard questions.
Are you doing what your heart says you should be doing?
Is everything in your life exactly the way you want it to be?
Do you get the support and encouragement you need?
These and many other important questions are the ones we all never seem to find the time to discuss with our self.
Take control today, live the life you have imagined. Talk to yourself,
and then listen to what your heart is saying to you.
When was the last time you scheduled an appointment with yourself?
You know time to reflect on your life.
Your spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with the most important person in your life.
So when was the last time you had a heart to heart talk with you?
If your like most of us it has most likely been longer than you will admit.
Why do we avoid having the hard conversations?
What are we avoiding?
How much better would we be if we worked to develop an honest relationship with our self?
Ask yourself the hard questions.
Are you doing what your heart says you should be doing?
Is everything in your life exactly the way you want it to be?
Do you get the support and encouragement you need?
These and many other important questions are the ones we all never seem to find the time to discuss with our self.
Take control today, live the life you have imagined. Talk to yourself,
and then listen to what your heart is saying to you.
Only One Person?
You may be only one person in the world,
but you may also be the world to one person.
Makes you think.
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but you may also be the world to one person.
Makes you think.
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UN-STOPABLE
What does it mean to be UN-STOPABLE?
Does the word UN-STOPABLE form pictures in your mind of super hero's fighting for good?
Do you conjure up images of corporate executives running large companies?
Or, do you see normal everyday folks similar to ourselves, who set their mind to something. Commit to taking one small step toward their goal, and then another, and another.
That's UN-STOPABLE!
It has little to do with super hero's, successful executives, or professional athletes.
It is desire and passion.
The desire to have something, be something, or do something...worthwhile.
Then to start, just begin with one small step, and then another small step.
UN-STOPABLE means to keep advancing confidently toward your desired outcome.
Whether it be completing a 20 mile run, losing weight, advancing your career, or just simply cleaning out the garage. Whatever your desire, use the passion to be UN-STOPABLE.
I have written a complete article on this very subject, UN-STOPABLE.
If you would like a free copy let me know.
Email for your copy; jnis@wildblue.net
Does the word UN-STOPABLE form pictures in your mind of super hero's fighting for good?
Do you conjure up images of corporate executives running large companies?
Or, do you see normal everyday folks similar to ourselves, who set their mind to something. Commit to taking one small step toward their goal, and then another, and another.
That's UN-STOPABLE!
It has little to do with super hero's, successful executives, or professional athletes.
It is desire and passion.
The desire to have something, be something, or do something...worthwhile.
Then to start, just begin with one small step, and then another small step.
UN-STOPABLE means to keep advancing confidently toward your desired outcome.
Whether it be completing a 20 mile run, losing weight, advancing your career, or just simply cleaning out the garage. Whatever your desire, use the passion to be UN-STOPABLE.
I have written a complete article on this very subject, UN-STOPABLE.
If you would like a free copy let me know.
Email for your copy; jnis@wildblue.net
A True Inspiration Video
YOU MUST,
check out this YouTube Video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4B-r8KJhlE
We all have LOTS to be grateful for.
Appreciate life, share some LOVE, Enjoy.
This is it folks, make the best of it.
check out this YouTube Video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4B-r8KJhlE
We all have LOTS to be grateful for.
Appreciate life, share some LOVE, Enjoy.
This is it folks, make the best of it.
Communication Mishaps
The Do-Over
Take responsibility for your words, actions, and expressions.
While we all try to communicate to others in an adult, professional,
and un-emotional way, yet there are those times when we say things we regret later,
or say stuff that we meant to come out differently than it actually came out.
Here are some ideas to help your improve your communications with others.
Think first, speak last. This gives you a few moments to sound it out to yourself before it goes out to the world.
Feel your tone of voice. What emotions am I sending out?
Hear your words. Do they make sense, express your thoughts, and communicate your message as intended.
Catch yourself. Catch yourself when you screw up.
Instantly express a sincere, "I'm Sorry" and follow with' "I don't like the way that came out, I want to try it again".
The Do-Over can make up for many communication mishaps immediately rather than facing the issue later.
"Communication is not saying something, communication is being heard."
----L Ron Hubbard
Take responsibility for your words, actions, and expressions.
While we all try to communicate to others in an adult, professional,
and un-emotional way, yet there are those times when we say things we regret later,
or say stuff that we meant to come out differently than it actually came out.
Here are some ideas to help your improve your communications with others.
Think first, speak last. This gives you a few moments to sound it out to yourself before it goes out to the world.
Feel your tone of voice. What emotions am I sending out?
Hear your words. Do they make sense, express your thoughts, and communicate your message as intended.
Catch yourself. Catch yourself when you screw up.
Instantly express a sincere, "I'm Sorry" and follow with' "I don't like the way that came out, I want to try it again".
The Do-Over can make up for many communication mishaps immediately rather than facing the issue later.
"Communication is not saying something, communication is being heard."
----L Ron Hubbard
My Friend Karim Hajee's Newsletter
"Though I might travel afar, I will meet only what I carry with me, for every man/woman is a mirror. We see only ourselves reflected in those around us. Their attitudes and actions are only a reflection of our own. The whole world and its condition has its counter parts within us all. Turn the gaze inward. Correct yourself and your world will change." ~ Kirsten Zambucka
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So just what do you see?And just how do you see things?
How do you see the people around you?
How do you view your friends, family, colleagues, associates, strangers, sales people, etc? Do you see some of them as positive influences and others as negative influences?
Do you think some of them are a pain, annoy you, aredifficult, frustrate you or out to get you? Or do you see them as friendly, warm, caring, affectionate, loving,
understanding, positive people.
How you see people is what you bring out of them.
For example if you see a sales person as annoying you're going to always find and attract annoying sales people. If you see a familymember as a pain, your always going to bring out the side in thatperson that is a pain towards you. If you see your colleagues as jealous, competitive or vindictivethen you're always going to bring out those qualities in thembecause that's what you see in them and that is what you believe istheir character. What you believe is what you get.
Now I know some of you are going to say: "Karim, these people are that way - I'm not making this stuff up. They really are nasty."Sure they are, and you keep bringing out the worst in them byfocusing only on seeing the dark side of their character. Everybody around you has some redeeming qualities look at those positive qualities within in them and you'll get them to display those qualities more often.
Next - ask yourself: "Is that really the way they are?" Challenge your perception and see if you can choose to see things differently. Chances are when you look really closely most people are not as mean and unkind as you think they are. They probably think that they're being very nice but since you only see the negative qualities in them anything they do will be deemed negative.
Once you've perceived them to be a certain way there's nothing that they can do to change your mind. The only way you will truly see the good in the other person is tofocus on and see their good qualities then you'll actually see them displaying these qualities more often.
Look for the good in someone and you will only attract good things to you.
Change the way you see people.
Change the way you see life.
Begin to believe that good things can happen and you begin to use the Power Of Perception.
You can read more of Karim at his website www.creatingpower.com
A Loving Way to a Better Way
A Loving Way to a Better Way
Remember when you were a child, a small bandage, a hug and a kiss could cure most anything, from a cut finger to a broken toy. That universal truth is still in existence. Love can still mend a broken heart, save a lonely soul, and heal a broken toe. It can bring joy to a saddened heart, light into darkness, and peace into a stressful situation. Love can cure depression, and addictions. It can be the force that can change any emotional event, circumstance, or situation into one of compassion, and empathy, and on occasion it can even bring sunshine to a rainy Saturday afternoon.
How do we bring more love into our lives?
How do we send out love?
I feel that we do not take the time to learn and develop the essence of this mystical universal principle of love heals all. While receiving love is no doubt the ultimate healing potion ever believed you must be able to send love before you can receive love. It is the sending of love to any other living being that creates the most beneficial results when it comes to the health and wellness of your heart and soul.
When love is an action instead of a feeling and sent out expecting nothing in return, the real magic begins. This universal principle of nature holds true in everything we do. Every action of love toward another living being, whether it be in spirit, a person, an animal, or plant, the universe will respond with magic back to you in many forms. The most common is the feeling of well being and euphoria that comes over your entire body. You naturally boost all of your immune systems. You walk with a spring in your step. You find that some of the small things that used to irritate you now don’t seem all that important. You find that each day you awake with a new vitality for life and a willingness to do something great.
So how do we use this universal law to be the best person toward others that we can be?
How do we send out unconditional love for everyone and everything into the universe without expectation of anything in return? Where do we start?
With yourself, always with yourself. It is an inside out approach.
Honesty, sincerity, and truthfulness are the foundations of this universal truth, and until you can be honest and truthful with yourself, and be sincere from within your heart in you actions, you can not realize these magical powers.
Before you can give away love to others you must have love to give away. It must come from a place within your soul that is serene and peaceful. Not full of stress, anxiety, jealousness, or a need to be first or more important than anyone else. If you are full of stress, anger, anxiety, and jealously, that’s what you send out to others. If you are full of kindness, peace, happiness, and love then that is what you to send out.
This may require a complete change from within you. Most of us feel that we are kind and loving people who would normally do most anything for another in need. We may put some loose change in the hand of the homeless. We send a check to a charity organization once a year, or give some can food to get a movie discount. These are all acts of kindness and this kindness may often be rewarded, but not with that warming feeling of peacefulness that spreads throughout your entire body, and causes you to look at yourself and others in a more loving way. The type of euphoric feeling I am referring to comes from deeper inside of us. It comes from a place where we do these unselfish acts unknowingly, because it is what we must do, not because we have a guilty conscious or an unmet need.
The only way that unselfish love will express itself from within you is if that is truly what is inside you. Almost as if you cannot send out anything else, think anything else, or be any other way toward yourself or another.
Start today, look at yourself in the mirror and make the choice that whatever events or circumstances come your way today, that in your heart of hearts you will respond with love, peace, and kindness. It may be another driver that cuts you off in traffic or a coworker that always seems to upset you with their words or actions. It may be a relative or loved one that you seem to always disagree with. Decide that today for everything that happens you will respond from that goodness in your heart, the unconditional love that was embedded in your spiritual soul at the time you were created. Decide to look for the good and the positive in any person, or situation.
Remarkable things will begin to happen. When you focus your attention on the good rather than the bad, the love, rather than the sad, you will begin to notice that everything around you will change. Everyone around you will change. The energetic, enthusiastic, authentic force that is within you will come to nurture and support you in everything you do.
When was the last time you wrote a letter to a friend? Not an email or a text message, but a real letter, handwritten from the heart?
When was the last time you called a friend or love one just to say I was thinking of you and care about you?
When was the last time you received a hug and kiss from a child?
Children are marvelous at giving love without the slightest expectation of anything in return. Their ego or society has not yet tainted their love, and so this process is natural for them. They do not know any other way, unless we show them one.
You may be thinking if I really become this person of greatness, that sends love and peace to everyone that I will just get taken advantage of and abused. Sadly, this may be true, but if unconditional love is really what you cultivate within your heart and soul, you will forgive them and love them for their unexcused actions. You will have an awareness that good will always prevail over evil and forgiveness over resentment.
Many years ago I was a non-believer in these universal principles. I believed like so many others, get them before they get you. How wrong I was. We always get what we give. There can be no other way, no other answer.
When we can live our lives from this place, then and only then can we reap the full health benefits to our body, heart, and soul that the universe is waiting to give to us. The healing sources that become available to you are unimaginable in common terms. The success and spiritual forces that will come to your cause will make the real difference in your life, and everyone you come into contact with. You will find that anything you desire, can, and will be yours. It will come to you, without thought or action on your part. It will continue to flow into your life.
Be the person that is the difference. Rather than just trying to make a difference.
When we leave this earth we can take nothing with us but the knowing
in our heart and soul, that we gave everything that we could,
Jeff Nis is a Professional Life Coach, Mentor, Author, and Business Consultant. Practicing universal principles to enrich lives and inspire others to be the best that they can be. Believing that inside each of us is the spirit of a soul waiting to be realized that will serve not only our individual needs, but also the needs of society. We each hold a greatness within us that possesses the power to be the difference.
With over 25 years experience in personal and professional development through books, articles, seminars, coaching, consulting, and hands on experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses realize their full potential. His leadership training, consulting experience, and hands on style, has lead to the successful development of many individuals and companies throughout the United States. Currently promoting his book, Reflections to Feelings, a Coach’s Journal which gives the reader an inside-out approach to many years of wisdom, education, and practical experience.
Books, articles, and services are available through the website,
www.YourLifeYourDreams.com
Jeff can be reached at jnis@centurytel.net or 509-209-1431
Remember when you were a child, a small bandage, a hug and a kiss could cure most anything, from a cut finger to a broken toy. That universal truth is still in existence. Love can still mend a broken heart, save a lonely soul, and heal a broken toe. It can bring joy to a saddened heart, light into darkness, and peace into a stressful situation. Love can cure depression, and addictions. It can be the force that can change any emotional event, circumstance, or situation into one of compassion, and empathy, and on occasion it can even bring sunshine to a rainy Saturday afternoon.
How do we bring more love into our lives?
How do we send out love?
I feel that we do not take the time to learn and develop the essence of this mystical universal principle of love heals all. While receiving love is no doubt the ultimate healing potion ever believed you must be able to send love before you can receive love. It is the sending of love to any other living being that creates the most beneficial results when it comes to the health and wellness of your heart and soul.
When love is an action instead of a feeling and sent out expecting nothing in return, the real magic begins. This universal principle of nature holds true in everything we do. Every action of love toward another living being, whether it be in spirit, a person, an animal, or plant, the universe will respond with magic back to you in many forms. The most common is the feeling of well being and euphoria that comes over your entire body. You naturally boost all of your immune systems. You walk with a spring in your step. You find that some of the small things that used to irritate you now don’t seem all that important. You find that each day you awake with a new vitality for life and a willingness to do something great.
So how do we use this universal law to be the best person toward others that we can be?
How do we send out unconditional love for everyone and everything into the universe without expectation of anything in return? Where do we start?
With yourself, always with yourself. It is an inside out approach.
Honesty, sincerity, and truthfulness are the foundations of this universal truth, and until you can be honest and truthful with yourself, and be sincere from within your heart in you actions, you can not realize these magical powers.
Before you can give away love to others you must have love to give away. It must come from a place within your soul that is serene and peaceful. Not full of stress, anxiety, jealousness, or a need to be first or more important than anyone else. If you are full of stress, anger, anxiety, and jealously, that’s what you send out to others. If you are full of kindness, peace, happiness, and love then that is what you to send out.
This may require a complete change from within you. Most of us feel that we are kind and loving people who would normally do most anything for another in need. We may put some loose change in the hand of the homeless. We send a check to a charity organization once a year, or give some can food to get a movie discount. These are all acts of kindness and this kindness may often be rewarded, but not with that warming feeling of peacefulness that spreads throughout your entire body, and causes you to look at yourself and others in a more loving way. The type of euphoric feeling I am referring to comes from deeper inside of us. It comes from a place where we do these unselfish acts unknowingly, because it is what we must do, not because we have a guilty conscious or an unmet need.
The only way that unselfish love will express itself from within you is if that is truly what is inside you. Almost as if you cannot send out anything else, think anything else, or be any other way toward yourself or another.
Start today, look at yourself in the mirror and make the choice that whatever events or circumstances come your way today, that in your heart of hearts you will respond with love, peace, and kindness. It may be another driver that cuts you off in traffic or a coworker that always seems to upset you with their words or actions. It may be a relative or loved one that you seem to always disagree with. Decide that today for everything that happens you will respond from that goodness in your heart, the unconditional love that was embedded in your spiritual soul at the time you were created. Decide to look for the good and the positive in any person, or situation.
Remarkable things will begin to happen. When you focus your attention on the good rather than the bad, the love, rather than the sad, you will begin to notice that everything around you will change. Everyone around you will change. The energetic, enthusiastic, authentic force that is within you will come to nurture and support you in everything you do.
When was the last time you wrote a letter to a friend? Not an email or a text message, but a real letter, handwritten from the heart?
When was the last time you called a friend or love one just to say I was thinking of you and care about you?
When was the last time you received a hug and kiss from a child?
Children are marvelous at giving love without the slightest expectation of anything in return. Their ego or society has not yet tainted their love, and so this process is natural for them. They do not know any other way, unless we show them one.
You may be thinking if I really become this person of greatness, that sends love and peace to everyone that I will just get taken advantage of and abused. Sadly, this may be true, but if unconditional love is really what you cultivate within your heart and soul, you will forgive them and love them for their unexcused actions. You will have an awareness that good will always prevail over evil and forgiveness over resentment.
Many years ago I was a non-believer in these universal principles. I believed like so many others, get them before they get you. How wrong I was. We always get what we give. There can be no other way, no other answer.
When we can live our lives from this place, then and only then can we reap the full health benefits to our body, heart, and soul that the universe is waiting to give to us. The healing sources that become available to you are unimaginable in common terms. The success and spiritual forces that will come to your cause will make the real difference in your life, and everyone you come into contact with. You will find that anything you desire, can, and will be yours. It will come to you, without thought or action on your part. It will continue to flow into your life.
Be the person that is the difference. Rather than just trying to make a difference.
When we leave this earth we can take nothing with us but the knowing
in our heart and soul, that we gave everything that we could,
to be the difference in someone's life.
About the author:
About the author:
Jeff Nis is a Professional Life Coach, Mentor, Author, and Business Consultant. Practicing universal principles to enrich lives and inspire others to be the best that they can be. Believing that inside each of us is the spirit of a soul waiting to be realized that will serve not only our individual needs, but also the needs of society. We each hold a greatness within us that possesses the power to be the difference.
With over 25 years experience in personal and professional development through books, articles, seminars, coaching, consulting, and hands on experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses realize their full potential. His leadership training, consulting experience, and hands on style, has lead to the successful development of many individuals and companies throughout the United States. Currently promoting his book, Reflections to Feelings, a Coach’s Journal which gives the reader an inside-out approach to many years of wisdom, education, and practical experience.
Books, articles, and services are available through the website,
www.YourLifeYourDreams.com
Jeff can be reached at jnis@centurytel.net or 509-209-1431
Be Your Own Hero
“Be Your Own Hero”
We all remember a time when we had a hero to look up to. Some of us still do. We have a mentor, priest, minister, coach, teacher or someone that we feel has a very high level of integrity, wisdom, and intelligence, that we look to for advice, counsel, and help.
From Superman to John Wayne, and from Doris Day to Wonder Woman we all have treasured memories of heroes that we looked up to at one time in our life. The definition of hero comes from Greek mythology meaning someone that is good and noble. Typically the willingness to sacrifice the self for the greater good is seen as the most important defining characteristic of a hero.
A willingness to sacrifice ones self for the greater good, pretty impressive I say.
Do you have something that you have wanted to take care of, something that you have been carrying around with you for years and has never been dealt with? A problem that needs solved or a person you need to talk to? We all have some unfinished business that we are avoiding because we have not gathered the courage or strength to get past the fears that are stopping us.
We all have some new horizon we dream of conquering that we have put off for long enough.
Now is the time to look deep inside, find the hero that lives there, and unleash their power. We all have a hero inside, the secret is to uncover this hero and use this power to prevail over the fears and obstacles that are holding us back.
Here are some ways that may help you to find your hero and gain the power to win.
Be true to yourself, your values, and your principles.
I have never known any heroes that were not true to their values. They live by the principle that good will always prevail over evil. They value honesty, courage, and an inner knowing of right from wrong. They live with the highest integrity.
These are the values and principles that heroes live by in everything they say and do.
When faced with an obstacle or difficult situation always ask yourself,
“What would my hero do?”
You already know the answer; you know what needs to be done. Use whatever means you need to but always do the right thing and you will always be living true to your values.
Let me know your success stories
We all remember a time when we had a hero to look up to. Some of us still do. We have a mentor, priest, minister, coach, teacher or someone that we feel has a very high level of integrity, wisdom, and intelligence, that we look to for advice, counsel, and help.
From Superman to John Wayne, and from Doris Day to Wonder Woman we all have treasured memories of heroes that we looked up to at one time in our life. The definition of hero comes from Greek mythology meaning someone that is good and noble. Typically the willingness to sacrifice the self for the greater good is seen as the most important defining characteristic of a hero.
A willingness to sacrifice ones self for the greater good, pretty impressive I say.
Do you have something that you have wanted to take care of, something that you have been carrying around with you for years and has never been dealt with? A problem that needs solved or a person you need to talk to? We all have some unfinished business that we are avoiding because we have not gathered the courage or strength to get past the fears that are stopping us.
We all have some new horizon we dream of conquering that we have put off for long enough.
Now is the time to look deep inside, find the hero that lives there, and unleash their power. We all have a hero inside, the secret is to uncover this hero and use this power to prevail over the fears and obstacles that are holding us back.
Here are some ways that may help you to find your hero and gain the power to win.
Be true to yourself, your values, and your principles.
I have never known any heroes that were not true to their values. They live by the principle that good will always prevail over evil. They value honesty, courage, and an inner knowing of right from wrong. They live with the highest integrity.
These are the values and principles that heroes live by in everything they say and do.
When faced with an obstacle or difficult situation always ask yourself,
“What would my hero do?”
You already know the answer; you know what needs to be done. Use whatever means you need to but always do the right thing and you will always be living true to your values.
Let me know your success stories
What do you believe?
“What Do You Believe In?”
Create a belief’s list.
This will require some real thought some deep reflection, and some great thinking, but the benefits are definitely worth it. I encourage you to try this.
We all should know what we believe in.
This will clarify any doubts you may have about who you are, what you stand for, and your integrity. It will help you discover more about yourself than any other exercise you have done. It will give more meaning and purpose to your everyday life and help you to begin on your personal mission or value statement that you can live your life by.
Just begin by writing at the top of the page, “I Believe in......”
Then starting a list of everything you believe in. Don’t worry if every item is not clearly defined at this point, just write it down. You can always clarify it more, change it, or remove it later if it doesn’t ring true for you.
Don’t number anything on the list, no sub lists, or possibles are allowed either.
Each entry must be 100% true for you to make the list and since these are all your beliefs you cannot number one any more important than another. Each should be equally important.
Be creative with the words you use to describe each belief. Make each statement profound for you, almost as if you have an awakening each time that you read it.
This will take more time than you think, and you may go back and change some entries from time to time, but after a few weeks of careful contemplation and soul searching you will end up with a list of your true beliefs.
Now that your list is complete, you will want to use it, so don’t file it away in your journal, or nightstand drawer. Keep it in your planner, wallet, purse, or other obvious place where you can review it regularly. You should review it as much as possible for the first few weeks or months and ask yourself this question.
Am I living true to my beliefs?
If not this could be a life changing experience for you.
Here are a few items from my personal list to help you get started with your belief list.
----God or higher intelligence ----You have the power
----Holding hands of the one I love ----Always doing my best
----Dreams are possible ----Angels
----Paying it Forward ----Laughter is the best medicine
----The power of a, “Thank You” ----Falling in love, over & over again...with my wife
If you want to go to the next level with this, after you complete your beliefs list try making a Don’t believe list. Write down everything you don’t believe in. This can also be wake up call.
If you would like help with living true to what you believe in......or any comments.
Create a belief’s list.
This will require some real thought some deep reflection, and some great thinking, but the benefits are definitely worth it. I encourage you to try this.
We all should know what we believe in.
This will clarify any doubts you may have about who you are, what you stand for, and your integrity. It will help you discover more about yourself than any other exercise you have done. It will give more meaning and purpose to your everyday life and help you to begin on your personal mission or value statement that you can live your life by.
Just begin by writing at the top of the page, “I Believe in......”
Then starting a list of everything you believe in. Don’t worry if every item is not clearly defined at this point, just write it down. You can always clarify it more, change it, or remove it later if it doesn’t ring true for you.
Don’t number anything on the list, no sub lists, or possibles are allowed either.
Each entry must be 100% true for you to make the list and since these are all your beliefs you cannot number one any more important than another. Each should be equally important.
Be creative with the words you use to describe each belief. Make each statement profound for you, almost as if you have an awakening each time that you read it.
This will take more time than you think, and you may go back and change some entries from time to time, but after a few weeks of careful contemplation and soul searching you will end up with a list of your true beliefs.
Now that your list is complete, you will want to use it, so don’t file it away in your journal, or nightstand drawer. Keep it in your planner, wallet, purse, or other obvious place where you can review it regularly. You should review it as much as possible for the first few weeks or months and ask yourself this question.
Am I living true to my beliefs?
If not this could be a life changing experience for you.
Here are a few items from my personal list to help you get started with your belief list.
----God or higher intelligence ----You have the power
----Holding hands of the one I love ----Always doing my best
----Dreams are possible ----Angels
----Paying it Forward ----Laughter is the best medicine
----The power of a, “Thank You” ----Falling in love, over & over again...with my wife
If you want to go to the next level with this, after you complete your beliefs list try making a Don’t believe list. Write down everything you don’t believe in. This can also be wake up call.
If you would like help with living true to what you believe in......or any comments.
Sam the Football Man
SAM'S STORY
Sam was just like any other 8 year old, third grader,at Barnes Elementary School. He loved recess. That was the time for hanging out with his fellow third graders, playing games, and just generally having fun. Football, that was the game.
Football was the game Sam had always wanted to play. But alas, Sam was never chosen when the other guys made up the teams. He would try his hardest every recess to get the guys to chose him. Just once if he could play, he would show them, he would let them see how well he could play football.
Sam had watched football every Sunday with his dad. He knew all about it. He knew he could play better than most of the other guys at recess. All he needed was his one chance to show everyone how well he could play football.
It was a Wednesday, with a cloudy sky that threatened rain at anytime. James, and two other of Sam's friends were out sick with colds. Sam could feel it, just before the recess bell rang. This was his day. He knew he would get his chance to play football today. The bell rang, everyone ran outside for recess, and sure enough the football guys invited Sam to play. This was his chance, this was his day.
With a nervous stomach Sam went over in his mind all the times he had watched the others playing football at recess. He remembered how they threw the ball, kicked it, and ran with it. He knew how to hold his arms up to block the other players. He knew football, and he was ready to play.
The game started out much the same as it did most any day. Players running, jumping, blocking, and kicking the football, each other, and the ground in general. It was just before the bell rang to go back in when Sam found himself presented with a life changing moment. One of those times when you are so sure in your mind you are doing the right thing, and you do it.
Sam was standing directly in front of the fumbled football. Of course he knew what he had to do. He had seen it in his mind a million times. Pick up the ball and run all the way to the goal for a touchdown. But in that moment, that single second, he felt in his stomach that something was not right. He looked around, no other player was close to him, he could hear some of the other players yelling at him to pick up the ball. So he did. He grabbed the ball, tucked it into his stomach and started running as fast as he could. He ran, and ran, but none of the other players could catch him.
As he was nearing the goal he could hear all the other players yelling and cheering for him. He could feel the adrenalin rushing through him as he got closer and closer to the goal. There it was directly in front of him, a few more steps and Sam would score his first touchdown. He did it he said to himself aloud as he ran into the endzone. He stopped and slammed the ball down hard into the ground as he had seen so many Sunday's with his dad. He felt as if he had just won the gold metal at the Olympics.
Just then the ending recess bell rang. Sam could see the other players running towards him to congratulate him on his big play, but Sam was wrong, and inside he had known it the whole time. You see the one small thing in this game that Sam had failed to learn was which way to run.
Do you know all the rules for the game of life you are expected to play, and win?
Do you listen to that inner knowing that tells you when to go, when to stop, and which way?
Have you practiced each and every play over, and over again?
How can you expect to practice, play, and win in a game where the rules, boundaries, and which way to run is unknown, or always changing?
This is where a coach can help.
We can help with finding your game,practicing, and developing strategies,listening, and helping with making the right choices.
You still may not be able to win every time,but you will at least know which way to run.
Peace, Love, & Happiness
Coach Jeff Nis
Contact info
Sam was just like any other 8 year old, third grader,at Barnes Elementary School. He loved recess. That was the time for hanging out with his fellow third graders, playing games, and just generally having fun. Football, that was the game.
Football was the game Sam had always wanted to play. But alas, Sam was never chosen when the other guys made up the teams. He would try his hardest every recess to get the guys to chose him. Just once if he could play, he would show them, he would let them see how well he could play football.
Sam had watched football every Sunday with his dad. He knew all about it. He knew he could play better than most of the other guys at recess. All he needed was his one chance to show everyone how well he could play football.
It was a Wednesday, with a cloudy sky that threatened rain at anytime. James, and two other of Sam's friends were out sick with colds. Sam could feel it, just before the recess bell rang. This was his day. He knew he would get his chance to play football today. The bell rang, everyone ran outside for recess, and sure enough the football guys invited Sam to play. This was his chance, this was his day.
With a nervous stomach Sam went over in his mind all the times he had watched the others playing football at recess. He remembered how they threw the ball, kicked it, and ran with it. He knew how to hold his arms up to block the other players. He knew football, and he was ready to play.
The game started out much the same as it did most any day. Players running, jumping, blocking, and kicking the football, each other, and the ground in general. It was just before the bell rang to go back in when Sam found himself presented with a life changing moment. One of those times when you are so sure in your mind you are doing the right thing, and you do it.
Sam was standing directly in front of the fumbled football. Of course he knew what he had to do. He had seen it in his mind a million times. Pick up the ball and run all the way to the goal for a touchdown. But in that moment, that single second, he felt in his stomach that something was not right. He looked around, no other player was close to him, he could hear some of the other players yelling at him to pick up the ball. So he did. He grabbed the ball, tucked it into his stomach and started running as fast as he could. He ran, and ran, but none of the other players could catch him.
As he was nearing the goal he could hear all the other players yelling and cheering for him. He could feel the adrenalin rushing through him as he got closer and closer to the goal. There it was directly in front of him, a few more steps and Sam would score his first touchdown. He did it he said to himself aloud as he ran into the endzone. He stopped and slammed the ball down hard into the ground as he had seen so many Sunday's with his dad. He felt as if he had just won the gold metal at the Olympics.
Just then the ending recess bell rang. Sam could see the other players running towards him to congratulate him on his big play, but Sam was wrong, and inside he had known it the whole time. You see the one small thing in this game that Sam had failed to learn was which way to run.
Do you know all the rules for the game of life you are expected to play, and win?
Do you listen to that inner knowing that tells you when to go, when to stop, and which way?
Have you practiced each and every play over, and over again?
How can you expect to practice, play, and win in a game where the rules, boundaries, and which way to run is unknown, or always changing?
This is where a coach can help.
We can help with finding your game,practicing, and developing strategies,listening, and helping with making the right choices.
You still may not be able to win every time,but you will at least know which way to run.
Peace, Love, & Happiness
Coach Jeff Nis
Contact info
Words of Wisdom from Stephen Covey
We don't even stop to ask ourselves if we're doing what really matters. The good, then, becomes the enemy of the best.
Humility is the mother of all virtues: the humble in spirit progress and are blessed because they willingly submit to higher powers and try to live in harmony with natural laws and universal principles. Courage is the father of all virtues; we need great courage to lead our lives by courage to lead our lives by correct principles and to have integrity in the moment of choice. When we set up our own self-generated or socially-validated value systems and then develop our missions and goals based on what we value, we tend to become laws unto ourselves, proud and independent.
Conscience puts us in touch with something within us even deeper than our thoughts and something outside us more reliable than our values. It connects us with the wisdom of the ages and the wisdom of the heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting based heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting base on emotions, moods, or circumstances.
We are the product of our choices. We are "response-able," meaning we are able to choose our response. This power to choose is a reflection of our independent will.
Dr. Stephen R. Covey
Humility is the mother of all virtues: the humble in spirit progress and are blessed because they willingly submit to higher powers and try to live in harmony with natural laws and universal principles. Courage is the father of all virtues; we need great courage to lead our lives by courage to lead our lives by correct principles and to have integrity in the moment of choice. When we set up our own self-generated or socially-validated value systems and then develop our missions and goals based on what we value, we tend to become laws unto ourselves, proud and independent.
Conscience puts us in touch with something within us even deeper than our thoughts and something outside us more reliable than our values. It connects us with the wisdom of the ages and the wisdom of the heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting based heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting base on emotions, moods, or circumstances.
We are the product of our choices. We are "response-able," meaning we are able to choose our response. This power to choose is a reflection of our independent will.
Dr. Stephen R. Covey
A Final Analysis
A FINAL ANALYSIS by Mother Theresa
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,Forgive them anyway,
If you are kind, people may accuse you of having personal motives,Be kind anyway,
If you are successful you will win some false friends and some true enemies,Succeed anyway,
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you,Be honest and frank anyway,
What you spend years building someone may destroy overnight,Build anyway,
If you find serenity and happiness they may be jealous,Be happy anyway,
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow,Do good anyway,
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough,Give your best anyway,
You see,
In the final analysis, it is between you and God,
It was never between you and them, anyway.
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,Forgive them anyway,
If you are kind, people may accuse you of having personal motives,Be kind anyway,
If you are successful you will win some false friends and some true enemies,Succeed anyway,
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you,Be honest and frank anyway,
What you spend years building someone may destroy overnight,Build anyway,
If you find serenity and happiness they may be jealous,Be happy anyway,
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow,Do good anyway,
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough,Give your best anyway,
You see,
In the final analysis, it is between you and God,
It was never between you and them, anyway.
Can You See
I just finished watching a great movie,Runaway Bride, Julia Roberts, and Richard Gere.
Yes, it's one of those feel good, Friday date night, type of love stories, but there was one scene that really inspired me to write this entry.
Richard Gere is speaking to his ex-wife,"What happened to us, why didn't we make it?", and then he said,"Did I not see you?"
This made me stop and think, do we really see anyone close to us?
Do we know who they are, do we know what they really want, need, or desire.
Do we know what we ourselves really want, need or desire?
Ask your self this question, and see what answers you come up with.
Can I look into the mirror, and see who I am.
Can you raise above your life, step outside yourself, and see who you are?
What makes you tick? What uniqueness makes you, YOU?
I say to you, MAKE TODAY THE DAY, turn off the TV, sit down with yourself, and get to the root of your soul.
"To be, or not to be, that is the question"And a powerful question it is.
What's YOUR answer?
Yes, it's one of those feel good, Friday date night, type of love stories, but there was one scene that really inspired me to write this entry.
Richard Gere is speaking to his ex-wife,"What happened to us, why didn't we make it?", and then he said,"Did I not see you?"
This made me stop and think, do we really see anyone close to us?
Do we know who they are, do we know what they really want, need, or desire.
Do we know what we ourselves really want, need or desire?
Ask your self this question, and see what answers you come up with.
Can I look into the mirror, and see who I am.
Can you raise above your life, step outside yourself, and see who you are?
What makes you tick? What uniqueness makes you, YOU?
I say to you, MAKE TODAY THE DAY, turn off the TV, sit down with yourself, and get to the root of your soul.
"To be, or not to be, that is the question"And a powerful question it is.
What's YOUR answer?
What If?
What if I don't find what is inside?
I know inside each of us is that flicker of an idea,that small flame of desire, waiting, wanting to get out. To be realized, developed, and formed into your destiny. Some of us can see it easily, and begin to live that which we are destined to be. Others still hold that desire deep inside ourselves, unwilling to let it go.
That secret dream, that wanting to do something, be something, or change something. For most of us to realize this secret burning passion that we have been holding inside we must overcome the obstacles of fear and doubt, and open ourselves to the possibilities.
The what if's.
Thats all that they are, what if's.
What if I don't let out what my heart is telling me is true.
What if when my life is almost at its end I look back and still continue to say, what if?
What if I had listened to that inner voice,what if I had overcome the fear and doubt and charged toward that burning light. Would my life had been different?
I say to you that TODAY is the time.NOW, this very minute. Reach inside, and grab the horns of that inner voice and pull it out kicking and screaming.Bring it to the surface, and begin to realize that this is my destiny.This is my life that I want, desire, and deserve.
And when the what if comes up, simply change it to....What if I don't.
I know inside each of us is that flicker of an idea,that small flame of desire, waiting, wanting to get out. To be realized, developed, and formed into your destiny. Some of us can see it easily, and begin to live that which we are destined to be. Others still hold that desire deep inside ourselves, unwilling to let it go.
That secret dream, that wanting to do something, be something, or change something. For most of us to realize this secret burning passion that we have been holding inside we must overcome the obstacles of fear and doubt, and open ourselves to the possibilities.
The what if's.
Thats all that they are, what if's.
What if I don't let out what my heart is telling me is true.
What if when my life is almost at its end I look back and still continue to say, what if?
What if I had listened to that inner voice,what if I had overcome the fear and doubt and charged toward that burning light. Would my life had been different?
I say to you that TODAY is the time.NOW, this very minute. Reach inside, and grab the horns of that inner voice and pull it out kicking and screaming.Bring it to the surface, and begin to realize that this is my destiny.This is my life that I want, desire, and deserve.
And when the what if comes up, simply change it to....What if I don't.
The Masters Hand
The Touch of the Masters Hand
Twas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer thought it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin, but held it up with a smile; "What am I bidden, good folks," he cried, "Who'll start the bidding for me?" "A dollar, a dollar"; then two!" "Only two? Two dollars, and who'll make it three? Three dollars, once; three dollars twice; going for three.."
But no, from the room, far back, agray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow; Then, wiping the dust from the old violin, and tightening the loose strings, he played a melody pure and sweet as caroling angel sings.
The music ceased, and the auctioneer, with a voice that was quiet and low, said; "What am I bid for the old violin?" And he held it up with the bow. A thousand dollars, and who'll make it two? Two thousand! And who'll make it three? Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice, and going and gone," said he. The people cheered, but some of them cried, "We do not quite understand what changed its worth."
Swift came the reply: "The touch of a master's hand." And many a man with life out of tune, and battered and scarred with sin, is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd, much like the old violin, A "mess of pottage," a glass of wine; a game - and he travels on. "He is going" once, and "going twice, He's going and almost gone." But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd never can quite understand the worth of a soul and the change that's wrought by the touch of the Master's hand.
Myra 'Brooks' Welch
Twas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer thought it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin, but held it up with a smile; "What am I bidden, good folks," he cried, "Who'll start the bidding for me?" "A dollar, a dollar"; then two!" "Only two? Two dollars, and who'll make it three? Three dollars, once; three dollars twice; going for three.."
But no, from the room, far back, agray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow; Then, wiping the dust from the old violin, and tightening the loose strings, he played a melody pure and sweet as caroling angel sings.
The music ceased, and the auctioneer, with a voice that was quiet and low, said; "What am I bid for the old violin?" And he held it up with the bow. A thousand dollars, and who'll make it two? Two thousand! And who'll make it three? Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice, and going and gone," said he. The people cheered, but some of them cried, "We do not quite understand what changed its worth."
Swift came the reply: "The touch of a master's hand." And many a man with life out of tune, and battered and scarred with sin, is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd, much like the old violin, A "mess of pottage," a glass of wine; a game - and he travels on. "He is going" once, and "going twice, He's going and almost gone." But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd never can quite understand the worth of a soul and the change that's wrought by the touch of the Master's hand.
Myra 'Brooks' Welch
Not Ready
Not ready yet?
OK, so you are not ready to move forward with your goals and dreams. You feel fine about where you are in your life at this time, and are completely satisified with all aspects of it.
GOOD for you!
But should you ever have the desire, a flicker of an unmet need, a small voice crying out inside you for something, I will be here, waiting. Why?
Because I know. I know that inside your heart of hearts, inside the spirirt of you, that only you can see, there is a greatness. You know it, and I know it.
So rest assured knowing that I am here whenever you are ready.
Special Features for you while you are waiting.
OK, so you are not ready to move forward with your goals and dreams. You feel fine about where you are in your life at this time, and are completely satisified with all aspects of it.
GOOD for you!
But should you ever have the desire, a flicker of an unmet need, a small voice crying out inside you for something, I will be here, waiting. Why?
Because I know. I know that inside your heart of hearts, inside the spirirt of you, that only you can see, there is a greatness. You know it, and I know it.
So rest assured knowing that I am here whenever you are ready.
Special Features for you while you are waiting.
Commitments
Commitments
Your Commitments to Yourself
We all make commitments everyday. Commitments to clients, customers, business associates, family, friends, and the list goes on. What about the commitments you make with yourself. Making commitments is easy. Meeting and fulfilling them is another story.
Keep your commitments. It’s that simple.
Keeping your commitments is the highest measure of your personal integrity. When you meet commitments you have made on a regular basis you become the person of high esteem, character, and value others look up to. You feel accomplished, and successful. Because no matter what the commitment, how large or small, you succeeded in meeting it. You have won, and any victory, no matter what size is still a victory.
Most commitments you make involve others. But what about the commitments you make to yourself. Last year you committed to lose the excess weight you have been carrying around.
Did that happen?
Where you successful in meeting that commitment?
What about when you bought that health club membership and committed to go workout a least three times a week.
Have you stood by that commitment?
I know on a personal note, that while I maintain a very high personal level of commitment to others, the commitments I make to myself are the first ones I break. This comes from our unselfish nature to put others ahead of ourselves. Especially if they are family and loved ones.
So how can we make and keep better commitments to ourselves without breaking commitments to others?
First, don’t confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. If you want to lose 30 pounds, don’t make a commitment that I will lose 30 pounds in 3 months. It’s not realistic. For a commitment to become something you are willing to do whatever it takes to stand by it, the commitment must be realistic. If you commit to yourself that you will avoid the drive thru and eat green leafy vegetables twice a day for the next 30 days that is realistic. That is something you can get behind and commit to do. That becomes the vehicle to meet our commitment to lose excess weight.
If we commit to exercise three times a week and get behind it 100%, we choose to be creative with our schedule. Allow time to go to the health club, walk up the stairs in our building at lunch, or get up early and walk a couple of times around the block.
First rule of commitments.....be realistic.
I know that on a personal scale this holds true for me with my writing. A few years ago I committed to myself that I would write one-hour everyday, I started out great. Everyday I would rise an hour earlier, and begin writing. It was perfect, the house was quiet, and I was fresh and creative, not tired or worn-out from the day’s activities. This worked perfectly for a few weeks, but then I started to slip. I was sleeping later; I was trying to write at later times in the day or evening. I found that at best I was only writing 2 or 3 times a week, I was frustrated, and it showed in my writing. I realized that I was not living up to the commitment I made with myself. I had let myself down. This of course led to further frustration, anxiety, and less quality writing. I had failed in my commitment to myself because in reviewing my schedule it was not realistic.
Failure can be a rude awakening, and if accepted can be a lifelong road of disaster. But if we realize that any failure no matter of its size is just a turning point, we can adjust course and keep moving toward keeping the commitments we make with others and ourselves.We always get some sign that we are slipping on our commitment, and can adjust accordingly before we hit the wall of failure. If we would just pay attention to those signs and proactively review the commitments we make we would realize if they are realistic.
Second rule of commitments.......see rule #1.
We often juggle many commitments in the air at the same time, if we pay attention to the warning signs we can avoid falling short on some commitments. Some may say that it is easier to not make any commitments you can’t keep easily. This may be true, but if you go through life not stretching yourself with commitments that force you to reach into new territory, you will remain in the same place, doing the same thing, and getting the same results you have always got.When you make true, realistic commitments that you stand behind 100%, and then achieve. You feel the satisfaction of success. You grow into a person of high esteem and value. You become the one that others look to as a person of high integrity.
Any commitment we make with ourselves must be realistic. Never confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. When you make a realistic commitment it will become something that you can get behind 100% and keep no matter what obstacles life may throw at you.If you can’t keep commitments with yourself, you will never be able to keep commitments with others.
Your Commitments to Yourself
We all make commitments everyday. Commitments to clients, customers, business associates, family, friends, and the list goes on. What about the commitments you make with yourself. Making commitments is easy. Meeting and fulfilling them is another story.
Keep your commitments. It’s that simple.
Keeping your commitments is the highest measure of your personal integrity. When you meet commitments you have made on a regular basis you become the person of high esteem, character, and value others look up to. You feel accomplished, and successful. Because no matter what the commitment, how large or small, you succeeded in meeting it. You have won, and any victory, no matter what size is still a victory.
Most commitments you make involve others. But what about the commitments you make to yourself. Last year you committed to lose the excess weight you have been carrying around.
Did that happen?
Where you successful in meeting that commitment?
What about when you bought that health club membership and committed to go workout a least three times a week.
Have you stood by that commitment?
I know on a personal note, that while I maintain a very high personal level of commitment to others, the commitments I make to myself are the first ones I break. This comes from our unselfish nature to put others ahead of ourselves. Especially if they are family and loved ones.
So how can we make and keep better commitments to ourselves without breaking commitments to others?
First, don’t confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. If you want to lose 30 pounds, don’t make a commitment that I will lose 30 pounds in 3 months. It’s not realistic. For a commitment to become something you are willing to do whatever it takes to stand by it, the commitment must be realistic. If you commit to yourself that you will avoid the drive thru and eat green leafy vegetables twice a day for the next 30 days that is realistic. That is something you can get behind and commit to do. That becomes the vehicle to meet our commitment to lose excess weight.
If we commit to exercise three times a week and get behind it 100%, we choose to be creative with our schedule. Allow time to go to the health club, walk up the stairs in our building at lunch, or get up early and walk a couple of times around the block.
First rule of commitments.....be realistic.
I know that on a personal scale this holds true for me with my writing. A few years ago I committed to myself that I would write one-hour everyday, I started out great. Everyday I would rise an hour earlier, and begin writing. It was perfect, the house was quiet, and I was fresh and creative, not tired or worn-out from the day’s activities. This worked perfectly for a few weeks, but then I started to slip. I was sleeping later; I was trying to write at later times in the day or evening. I found that at best I was only writing 2 or 3 times a week, I was frustrated, and it showed in my writing. I realized that I was not living up to the commitment I made with myself. I had let myself down. This of course led to further frustration, anxiety, and less quality writing. I had failed in my commitment to myself because in reviewing my schedule it was not realistic.
Failure can be a rude awakening, and if accepted can be a lifelong road of disaster. But if we realize that any failure no matter of its size is just a turning point, we can adjust course and keep moving toward keeping the commitments we make with others and ourselves.We always get some sign that we are slipping on our commitment, and can adjust accordingly before we hit the wall of failure. If we would just pay attention to those signs and proactively review the commitments we make we would realize if they are realistic.
Second rule of commitments.......see rule #1.
We often juggle many commitments in the air at the same time, if we pay attention to the warning signs we can avoid falling short on some commitments. Some may say that it is easier to not make any commitments you can’t keep easily. This may be true, but if you go through life not stretching yourself with commitments that force you to reach into new territory, you will remain in the same place, doing the same thing, and getting the same results you have always got.When you make true, realistic commitments that you stand behind 100%, and then achieve. You feel the satisfaction of success. You grow into a person of high esteem and value. You become the one that others look to as a person of high integrity.
Any commitment we make with ourselves must be realistic. Never confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. When you make a realistic commitment it will become something that you can get behind 100% and keep no matter what obstacles life may throw at you.If you can’t keep commitments with yourself, you will never be able to keep commitments with others.
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