“Be Your Own Hero”
We all remember a time when we had a hero to look up to. Some of us still do. We have a mentor, priest, minister, coach, teacher or someone that we feel has a very high level of integrity, wisdom, and intelligence, that we look to for advice, counsel, and help.
From Superman to John Wayne, and from Doris Day to Wonder Woman we all have treasured memories of heroes that we looked up to at one time in our life. The definition of hero comes from Greek mythology meaning someone that is good and noble. Typically the willingness to sacrifice the self for the greater good is seen as the most important defining characteristic of a hero.
A willingness to sacrifice ones self for the greater good, pretty impressive I say.
Do you have something that you have wanted to take care of, something that you have been carrying around with you for years and has never been dealt with? A problem that needs solved or a person you need to talk to? We all have some unfinished business that we are avoiding because we have not gathered the courage or strength to get past the fears that are stopping us.
We all have some new horizon we dream of conquering that we have put off for long enough.
Now is the time to look deep inside, find the hero that lives there, and unleash their power. We all have a hero inside, the secret is to uncover this hero and use this power to prevail over the fears and obstacles that are holding us back.
Here are some ways that may help you to find your hero and gain the power to win.
Be true to yourself, your values, and your principles.
I have never known any heroes that were not true to their values. They live by the principle that good will always prevail over evil. They value honesty, courage, and an inner knowing of right from wrong. They live with the highest integrity.
These are the values and principles that heroes live by in everything they say and do.
When faced with an obstacle or difficult situation always ask yourself,
“What would my hero do?”
You already know the answer; you know what needs to be done. Use whatever means you need to but always do the right thing and you will always be living true to your values.
Let me know your success stories
What do you believe?
“What Do You Believe In?”
Create a belief’s list.
This will require some real thought some deep reflection, and some great thinking, but the benefits are definitely worth it. I encourage you to try this.
We all should know what we believe in.
This will clarify any doubts you may have about who you are, what you stand for, and your integrity. It will help you discover more about yourself than any other exercise you have done. It will give more meaning and purpose to your everyday life and help you to begin on your personal mission or value statement that you can live your life by.
Just begin by writing at the top of the page, “I Believe in......”
Then starting a list of everything you believe in. Don’t worry if every item is not clearly defined at this point, just write it down. You can always clarify it more, change it, or remove it later if it doesn’t ring true for you.
Don’t number anything on the list, no sub lists, or possibles are allowed either.
Each entry must be 100% true for you to make the list and since these are all your beliefs you cannot number one any more important than another. Each should be equally important.
Be creative with the words you use to describe each belief. Make each statement profound for you, almost as if you have an awakening each time that you read it.
This will take more time than you think, and you may go back and change some entries from time to time, but after a few weeks of careful contemplation and soul searching you will end up with a list of your true beliefs.
Now that your list is complete, you will want to use it, so don’t file it away in your journal, or nightstand drawer. Keep it in your planner, wallet, purse, or other obvious place where you can review it regularly. You should review it as much as possible for the first few weeks or months and ask yourself this question.
Am I living true to my beliefs?
If not this could be a life changing experience for you.
Here are a few items from my personal list to help you get started with your belief list.
----God or higher intelligence ----You have the power
----Holding hands of the one I love ----Always doing my best
----Dreams are possible ----Angels
----Paying it Forward ----Laughter is the best medicine
----The power of a, “Thank You” ----Falling in love, over & over again...with my wife
If you want to go to the next level with this, after you complete your beliefs list try making a Don’t believe list. Write down everything you don’t believe in. This can also be wake up call.
If you would like help with living true to what you believe in......or any comments.
Create a belief’s list.
This will require some real thought some deep reflection, and some great thinking, but the benefits are definitely worth it. I encourage you to try this.
We all should know what we believe in.
This will clarify any doubts you may have about who you are, what you stand for, and your integrity. It will help you discover more about yourself than any other exercise you have done. It will give more meaning and purpose to your everyday life and help you to begin on your personal mission or value statement that you can live your life by.
Just begin by writing at the top of the page, “I Believe in......”
Then starting a list of everything you believe in. Don’t worry if every item is not clearly defined at this point, just write it down. You can always clarify it more, change it, or remove it later if it doesn’t ring true for you.
Don’t number anything on the list, no sub lists, or possibles are allowed either.
Each entry must be 100% true for you to make the list and since these are all your beliefs you cannot number one any more important than another. Each should be equally important.
Be creative with the words you use to describe each belief. Make each statement profound for you, almost as if you have an awakening each time that you read it.
This will take more time than you think, and you may go back and change some entries from time to time, but after a few weeks of careful contemplation and soul searching you will end up with a list of your true beliefs.
Now that your list is complete, you will want to use it, so don’t file it away in your journal, or nightstand drawer. Keep it in your planner, wallet, purse, or other obvious place where you can review it regularly. You should review it as much as possible for the first few weeks or months and ask yourself this question.
Am I living true to my beliefs?
If not this could be a life changing experience for you.
Here are a few items from my personal list to help you get started with your belief list.
----God or higher intelligence ----You have the power
----Holding hands of the one I love ----Always doing my best
----Dreams are possible ----Angels
----Paying it Forward ----Laughter is the best medicine
----The power of a, “Thank You” ----Falling in love, over & over again...with my wife
If you want to go to the next level with this, after you complete your beliefs list try making a Don’t believe list. Write down everything you don’t believe in. This can also be wake up call.
If you would like help with living true to what you believe in......or any comments.
Sam the Football Man
SAM'S STORY
Sam was just like any other 8 year old, third grader,at Barnes Elementary School. He loved recess. That was the time for hanging out with his fellow third graders, playing games, and just generally having fun. Football, that was the game.
Football was the game Sam had always wanted to play. But alas, Sam was never chosen when the other guys made up the teams. He would try his hardest every recess to get the guys to chose him. Just once if he could play, he would show them, he would let them see how well he could play football.
Sam had watched football every Sunday with his dad. He knew all about it. He knew he could play better than most of the other guys at recess. All he needed was his one chance to show everyone how well he could play football.
It was a Wednesday, with a cloudy sky that threatened rain at anytime. James, and two other of Sam's friends were out sick with colds. Sam could feel it, just before the recess bell rang. This was his day. He knew he would get his chance to play football today. The bell rang, everyone ran outside for recess, and sure enough the football guys invited Sam to play. This was his chance, this was his day.
With a nervous stomach Sam went over in his mind all the times he had watched the others playing football at recess. He remembered how they threw the ball, kicked it, and ran with it. He knew how to hold his arms up to block the other players. He knew football, and he was ready to play.
The game started out much the same as it did most any day. Players running, jumping, blocking, and kicking the football, each other, and the ground in general. It was just before the bell rang to go back in when Sam found himself presented with a life changing moment. One of those times when you are so sure in your mind you are doing the right thing, and you do it.
Sam was standing directly in front of the fumbled football. Of course he knew what he had to do. He had seen it in his mind a million times. Pick up the ball and run all the way to the goal for a touchdown. But in that moment, that single second, he felt in his stomach that something was not right. He looked around, no other player was close to him, he could hear some of the other players yelling at him to pick up the ball. So he did. He grabbed the ball, tucked it into his stomach and started running as fast as he could. He ran, and ran, but none of the other players could catch him.
As he was nearing the goal he could hear all the other players yelling and cheering for him. He could feel the adrenalin rushing through him as he got closer and closer to the goal. There it was directly in front of him, a few more steps and Sam would score his first touchdown. He did it he said to himself aloud as he ran into the endzone. He stopped and slammed the ball down hard into the ground as he had seen so many Sunday's with his dad. He felt as if he had just won the gold metal at the Olympics.
Just then the ending recess bell rang. Sam could see the other players running towards him to congratulate him on his big play, but Sam was wrong, and inside he had known it the whole time. You see the one small thing in this game that Sam had failed to learn was which way to run.
Do you know all the rules for the game of life you are expected to play, and win?
Do you listen to that inner knowing that tells you when to go, when to stop, and which way?
Have you practiced each and every play over, and over again?
How can you expect to practice, play, and win in a game where the rules, boundaries, and which way to run is unknown, or always changing?
This is where a coach can help.
We can help with finding your game,practicing, and developing strategies,listening, and helping with making the right choices.
You still may not be able to win every time,but you will at least know which way to run.
Peace, Love, & Happiness
Coach Jeff Nis
Contact info
Sam was just like any other 8 year old, third grader,at Barnes Elementary School. He loved recess. That was the time for hanging out with his fellow third graders, playing games, and just generally having fun. Football, that was the game.
Football was the game Sam had always wanted to play. But alas, Sam was never chosen when the other guys made up the teams. He would try his hardest every recess to get the guys to chose him. Just once if he could play, he would show them, he would let them see how well he could play football.
Sam had watched football every Sunday with his dad. He knew all about it. He knew he could play better than most of the other guys at recess. All he needed was his one chance to show everyone how well he could play football.
It was a Wednesday, with a cloudy sky that threatened rain at anytime. James, and two other of Sam's friends were out sick with colds. Sam could feel it, just before the recess bell rang. This was his day. He knew he would get his chance to play football today. The bell rang, everyone ran outside for recess, and sure enough the football guys invited Sam to play. This was his chance, this was his day.
With a nervous stomach Sam went over in his mind all the times he had watched the others playing football at recess. He remembered how they threw the ball, kicked it, and ran with it. He knew how to hold his arms up to block the other players. He knew football, and he was ready to play.
The game started out much the same as it did most any day. Players running, jumping, blocking, and kicking the football, each other, and the ground in general. It was just before the bell rang to go back in when Sam found himself presented with a life changing moment. One of those times when you are so sure in your mind you are doing the right thing, and you do it.
Sam was standing directly in front of the fumbled football. Of course he knew what he had to do. He had seen it in his mind a million times. Pick up the ball and run all the way to the goal for a touchdown. But in that moment, that single second, he felt in his stomach that something was not right. He looked around, no other player was close to him, he could hear some of the other players yelling at him to pick up the ball. So he did. He grabbed the ball, tucked it into his stomach and started running as fast as he could. He ran, and ran, but none of the other players could catch him.
As he was nearing the goal he could hear all the other players yelling and cheering for him. He could feel the adrenalin rushing through him as he got closer and closer to the goal. There it was directly in front of him, a few more steps and Sam would score his first touchdown. He did it he said to himself aloud as he ran into the endzone. He stopped and slammed the ball down hard into the ground as he had seen so many Sunday's with his dad. He felt as if he had just won the gold metal at the Olympics.
Just then the ending recess bell rang. Sam could see the other players running towards him to congratulate him on his big play, but Sam was wrong, and inside he had known it the whole time. You see the one small thing in this game that Sam had failed to learn was which way to run.
Do you know all the rules for the game of life you are expected to play, and win?
Do you listen to that inner knowing that tells you when to go, when to stop, and which way?
Have you practiced each and every play over, and over again?
How can you expect to practice, play, and win in a game where the rules, boundaries, and which way to run is unknown, or always changing?
This is where a coach can help.
We can help with finding your game,practicing, and developing strategies,listening, and helping with making the right choices.
You still may not be able to win every time,but you will at least know which way to run.
Peace, Love, & Happiness
Coach Jeff Nis
Contact info
Words of Wisdom from Stephen Covey
We don't even stop to ask ourselves if we're doing what really matters. The good, then, becomes the enemy of the best.
Humility is the mother of all virtues: the humble in spirit progress and are blessed because they willingly submit to higher powers and try to live in harmony with natural laws and universal principles. Courage is the father of all virtues; we need great courage to lead our lives by courage to lead our lives by correct principles and to have integrity in the moment of choice. When we set up our own self-generated or socially-validated value systems and then develop our missions and goals based on what we value, we tend to become laws unto ourselves, proud and independent.
Conscience puts us in touch with something within us even deeper than our thoughts and something outside us more reliable than our values. It connects us with the wisdom of the ages and the wisdom of the heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting based heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting base on emotions, moods, or circumstances.
We are the product of our choices. We are "response-able," meaning we are able to choose our response. This power to choose is a reflection of our independent will.
Dr. Stephen R. Covey
Humility is the mother of all virtues: the humble in spirit progress and are blessed because they willingly submit to higher powers and try to live in harmony with natural laws and universal principles. Courage is the father of all virtues; we need great courage to lead our lives by courage to lead our lives by correct principles and to have integrity in the moment of choice. When we set up our own self-generated or socially-validated value systems and then develop our missions and goals based on what we value, we tend to become laws unto ourselves, proud and independent.
Conscience puts us in touch with something within us even deeper than our thoughts and something outside us more reliable than our values. It connects us with the wisdom of the ages and the wisdom of the heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting based heart. It's an internal guidance system that allows us to sense when we act or even contemplate acting in a way that's contrary to our deepest values and "true north" principles.
Independent will is our capacity to act, the power to transcend our paradigms, to swim upstream, to re-write our scripts, to act based on principles rather than reacting base on emotions, moods, or circumstances.
We are the product of our choices. We are "response-able," meaning we are able to choose our response. This power to choose is a reflection of our independent will.
Dr. Stephen R. Covey
A Final Analysis
A FINAL ANALYSIS by Mother Theresa
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,Forgive them anyway,
If you are kind, people may accuse you of having personal motives,Be kind anyway,
If you are successful you will win some false friends and some true enemies,Succeed anyway,
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you,Be honest and frank anyway,
What you spend years building someone may destroy overnight,Build anyway,
If you find serenity and happiness they may be jealous,Be happy anyway,
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow,Do good anyway,
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough,Give your best anyway,
You see,
In the final analysis, it is between you and God,
It was never between you and them, anyway.
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered,Forgive them anyway,
If you are kind, people may accuse you of having personal motives,Be kind anyway,
If you are successful you will win some false friends and some true enemies,Succeed anyway,
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you,Be honest and frank anyway,
What you spend years building someone may destroy overnight,Build anyway,
If you find serenity and happiness they may be jealous,Be happy anyway,
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow,Do good anyway,
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough,Give your best anyway,
You see,
In the final analysis, it is between you and God,
It was never between you and them, anyway.
Can You See
I just finished watching a great movie,Runaway Bride, Julia Roberts, and Richard Gere.
Yes, it's one of those feel good, Friday date night, type of love stories, but there was one scene that really inspired me to write this entry.
Richard Gere is speaking to his ex-wife,"What happened to us, why didn't we make it?", and then he said,"Did I not see you?"
This made me stop and think, do we really see anyone close to us?
Do we know who they are, do we know what they really want, need, or desire.
Do we know what we ourselves really want, need or desire?
Ask your self this question, and see what answers you come up with.
Can I look into the mirror, and see who I am.
Can you raise above your life, step outside yourself, and see who you are?
What makes you tick? What uniqueness makes you, YOU?
I say to you, MAKE TODAY THE DAY, turn off the TV, sit down with yourself, and get to the root of your soul.
"To be, or not to be, that is the question"And a powerful question it is.
What's YOUR answer?
Yes, it's one of those feel good, Friday date night, type of love stories, but there was one scene that really inspired me to write this entry.
Richard Gere is speaking to his ex-wife,"What happened to us, why didn't we make it?", and then he said,"Did I not see you?"
This made me stop and think, do we really see anyone close to us?
Do we know who they are, do we know what they really want, need, or desire.
Do we know what we ourselves really want, need or desire?
Ask your self this question, and see what answers you come up with.
Can I look into the mirror, and see who I am.
Can you raise above your life, step outside yourself, and see who you are?
What makes you tick? What uniqueness makes you, YOU?
I say to you, MAKE TODAY THE DAY, turn off the TV, sit down with yourself, and get to the root of your soul.
"To be, or not to be, that is the question"And a powerful question it is.
What's YOUR answer?
What If?
What if I don't find what is inside?
I know inside each of us is that flicker of an idea,that small flame of desire, waiting, wanting to get out. To be realized, developed, and formed into your destiny. Some of us can see it easily, and begin to live that which we are destined to be. Others still hold that desire deep inside ourselves, unwilling to let it go.
That secret dream, that wanting to do something, be something, or change something. For most of us to realize this secret burning passion that we have been holding inside we must overcome the obstacles of fear and doubt, and open ourselves to the possibilities.
The what if's.
Thats all that they are, what if's.
What if I don't let out what my heart is telling me is true.
What if when my life is almost at its end I look back and still continue to say, what if?
What if I had listened to that inner voice,what if I had overcome the fear and doubt and charged toward that burning light. Would my life had been different?
I say to you that TODAY is the time.NOW, this very minute. Reach inside, and grab the horns of that inner voice and pull it out kicking and screaming.Bring it to the surface, and begin to realize that this is my destiny.This is my life that I want, desire, and deserve.
And when the what if comes up, simply change it to....What if I don't.
I know inside each of us is that flicker of an idea,that small flame of desire, waiting, wanting to get out. To be realized, developed, and formed into your destiny. Some of us can see it easily, and begin to live that which we are destined to be. Others still hold that desire deep inside ourselves, unwilling to let it go.
That secret dream, that wanting to do something, be something, or change something. For most of us to realize this secret burning passion that we have been holding inside we must overcome the obstacles of fear and doubt, and open ourselves to the possibilities.
The what if's.
Thats all that they are, what if's.
What if I don't let out what my heart is telling me is true.
What if when my life is almost at its end I look back and still continue to say, what if?
What if I had listened to that inner voice,what if I had overcome the fear and doubt and charged toward that burning light. Would my life had been different?
I say to you that TODAY is the time.NOW, this very minute. Reach inside, and grab the horns of that inner voice and pull it out kicking and screaming.Bring it to the surface, and begin to realize that this is my destiny.This is my life that I want, desire, and deserve.
And when the what if comes up, simply change it to....What if I don't.
The Masters Hand
The Touch of the Masters Hand
Twas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer thought it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin, but held it up with a smile; "What am I bidden, good folks," he cried, "Who'll start the bidding for me?" "A dollar, a dollar"; then two!" "Only two? Two dollars, and who'll make it three? Three dollars, once; three dollars twice; going for three.."
But no, from the room, far back, agray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow; Then, wiping the dust from the old violin, and tightening the loose strings, he played a melody pure and sweet as caroling angel sings.
The music ceased, and the auctioneer, with a voice that was quiet and low, said; "What am I bid for the old violin?" And he held it up with the bow. A thousand dollars, and who'll make it two? Two thousand! And who'll make it three? Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice, and going and gone," said he. The people cheered, but some of them cried, "We do not quite understand what changed its worth."
Swift came the reply: "The touch of a master's hand." And many a man with life out of tune, and battered and scarred with sin, is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd, much like the old violin, A "mess of pottage," a glass of wine; a game - and he travels on. "He is going" once, and "going twice, He's going and almost gone." But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd never can quite understand the worth of a soul and the change that's wrought by the touch of the Master's hand.
Myra 'Brooks' Welch
Twas battered and scarred, and the auctioneer thought it scarcely worth his while to waste much time on the old violin, but held it up with a smile; "What am I bidden, good folks," he cried, "Who'll start the bidding for me?" "A dollar, a dollar"; then two!" "Only two? Two dollars, and who'll make it three? Three dollars, once; three dollars twice; going for three.."
But no, from the room, far back, agray-haired man came forward and picked up the bow; Then, wiping the dust from the old violin, and tightening the loose strings, he played a melody pure and sweet as caroling angel sings.
The music ceased, and the auctioneer, with a voice that was quiet and low, said; "What am I bid for the old violin?" And he held it up with the bow. A thousand dollars, and who'll make it two? Two thousand! And who'll make it three? Three thousand, once, three thousand, twice, and going and gone," said he. The people cheered, but some of them cried, "We do not quite understand what changed its worth."
Swift came the reply: "The touch of a master's hand." And many a man with life out of tune, and battered and scarred with sin, is auctioned cheap to the thoughtless crowd, much like the old violin, A "mess of pottage," a glass of wine; a game - and he travels on. "He is going" once, and "going twice, He's going and almost gone." But the Master comes, and the foolish crowd never can quite understand the worth of a soul and the change that's wrought by the touch of the Master's hand.
Myra 'Brooks' Welch
Not Ready
Not ready yet?
OK, so you are not ready to move forward with your goals and dreams. You feel fine about where you are in your life at this time, and are completely satisified with all aspects of it.
GOOD for you!
But should you ever have the desire, a flicker of an unmet need, a small voice crying out inside you for something, I will be here, waiting. Why?
Because I know. I know that inside your heart of hearts, inside the spirirt of you, that only you can see, there is a greatness. You know it, and I know it.
So rest assured knowing that I am here whenever you are ready.
Special Features for you while you are waiting.
OK, so you are not ready to move forward with your goals and dreams. You feel fine about where you are in your life at this time, and are completely satisified with all aspects of it.
GOOD for you!
But should you ever have the desire, a flicker of an unmet need, a small voice crying out inside you for something, I will be here, waiting. Why?
Because I know. I know that inside your heart of hearts, inside the spirirt of you, that only you can see, there is a greatness. You know it, and I know it.
So rest assured knowing that I am here whenever you are ready.
Special Features for you while you are waiting.
Commitments
Commitments
Your Commitments to Yourself
We all make commitments everyday. Commitments to clients, customers, business associates, family, friends, and the list goes on. What about the commitments you make with yourself. Making commitments is easy. Meeting and fulfilling them is another story.
Keep your commitments. It’s that simple.
Keeping your commitments is the highest measure of your personal integrity. When you meet commitments you have made on a regular basis you become the person of high esteem, character, and value others look up to. You feel accomplished, and successful. Because no matter what the commitment, how large or small, you succeeded in meeting it. You have won, and any victory, no matter what size is still a victory.
Most commitments you make involve others. But what about the commitments you make to yourself. Last year you committed to lose the excess weight you have been carrying around.
Did that happen?
Where you successful in meeting that commitment?
What about when you bought that health club membership and committed to go workout a least three times a week.
Have you stood by that commitment?
I know on a personal note, that while I maintain a very high personal level of commitment to others, the commitments I make to myself are the first ones I break. This comes from our unselfish nature to put others ahead of ourselves. Especially if they are family and loved ones.
So how can we make and keep better commitments to ourselves without breaking commitments to others?
First, don’t confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. If you want to lose 30 pounds, don’t make a commitment that I will lose 30 pounds in 3 months. It’s not realistic. For a commitment to become something you are willing to do whatever it takes to stand by it, the commitment must be realistic. If you commit to yourself that you will avoid the drive thru and eat green leafy vegetables twice a day for the next 30 days that is realistic. That is something you can get behind and commit to do. That becomes the vehicle to meet our commitment to lose excess weight.
If we commit to exercise three times a week and get behind it 100%, we choose to be creative with our schedule. Allow time to go to the health club, walk up the stairs in our building at lunch, or get up early and walk a couple of times around the block.
First rule of commitments.....be realistic.
I know that on a personal scale this holds true for me with my writing. A few years ago I committed to myself that I would write one-hour everyday, I started out great. Everyday I would rise an hour earlier, and begin writing. It was perfect, the house was quiet, and I was fresh and creative, not tired or worn-out from the day’s activities. This worked perfectly for a few weeks, but then I started to slip. I was sleeping later; I was trying to write at later times in the day or evening. I found that at best I was only writing 2 or 3 times a week, I was frustrated, and it showed in my writing. I realized that I was not living up to the commitment I made with myself. I had let myself down. This of course led to further frustration, anxiety, and less quality writing. I had failed in my commitment to myself because in reviewing my schedule it was not realistic.
Failure can be a rude awakening, and if accepted can be a lifelong road of disaster. But if we realize that any failure no matter of its size is just a turning point, we can adjust course and keep moving toward keeping the commitments we make with others and ourselves.We always get some sign that we are slipping on our commitment, and can adjust accordingly before we hit the wall of failure. If we would just pay attention to those signs and proactively review the commitments we make we would realize if they are realistic.
Second rule of commitments.......see rule #1.
We often juggle many commitments in the air at the same time, if we pay attention to the warning signs we can avoid falling short on some commitments. Some may say that it is easier to not make any commitments you can’t keep easily. This may be true, but if you go through life not stretching yourself with commitments that force you to reach into new territory, you will remain in the same place, doing the same thing, and getting the same results you have always got.When you make true, realistic commitments that you stand behind 100%, and then achieve. You feel the satisfaction of success. You grow into a person of high esteem and value. You become the one that others look to as a person of high integrity.
Any commitment we make with ourselves must be realistic. Never confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. When you make a realistic commitment it will become something that you can get behind 100% and keep no matter what obstacles life may throw at you.If you can’t keep commitments with yourself, you will never be able to keep commitments with others.
Your Commitments to Yourself
We all make commitments everyday. Commitments to clients, customers, business associates, family, friends, and the list goes on. What about the commitments you make with yourself. Making commitments is easy. Meeting and fulfilling them is another story.
Keep your commitments. It’s that simple.
Keeping your commitments is the highest measure of your personal integrity. When you meet commitments you have made on a regular basis you become the person of high esteem, character, and value others look up to. You feel accomplished, and successful. Because no matter what the commitment, how large or small, you succeeded in meeting it. You have won, and any victory, no matter what size is still a victory.
Most commitments you make involve others. But what about the commitments you make to yourself. Last year you committed to lose the excess weight you have been carrying around.
Did that happen?
Where you successful in meeting that commitment?
What about when you bought that health club membership and committed to go workout a least three times a week.
Have you stood by that commitment?
I know on a personal note, that while I maintain a very high personal level of commitment to others, the commitments I make to myself are the first ones I break. This comes from our unselfish nature to put others ahead of ourselves. Especially if they are family and loved ones.
So how can we make and keep better commitments to ourselves without breaking commitments to others?
First, don’t confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. If you want to lose 30 pounds, don’t make a commitment that I will lose 30 pounds in 3 months. It’s not realistic. For a commitment to become something you are willing to do whatever it takes to stand by it, the commitment must be realistic. If you commit to yourself that you will avoid the drive thru and eat green leafy vegetables twice a day for the next 30 days that is realistic. That is something you can get behind and commit to do. That becomes the vehicle to meet our commitment to lose excess weight.
If we commit to exercise three times a week and get behind it 100%, we choose to be creative with our schedule. Allow time to go to the health club, walk up the stairs in our building at lunch, or get up early and walk a couple of times around the block.
First rule of commitments.....be realistic.
I know that on a personal scale this holds true for me with my writing. A few years ago I committed to myself that I would write one-hour everyday, I started out great. Everyday I would rise an hour earlier, and begin writing. It was perfect, the house was quiet, and I was fresh and creative, not tired or worn-out from the day’s activities. This worked perfectly for a few weeks, but then I started to slip. I was sleeping later; I was trying to write at later times in the day or evening. I found that at best I was only writing 2 or 3 times a week, I was frustrated, and it showed in my writing. I realized that I was not living up to the commitment I made with myself. I had let myself down. This of course led to further frustration, anxiety, and less quality writing. I had failed in my commitment to myself because in reviewing my schedule it was not realistic.
Failure can be a rude awakening, and if accepted can be a lifelong road of disaster. But if we realize that any failure no matter of its size is just a turning point, we can adjust course and keep moving toward keeping the commitments we make with others and ourselves.We always get some sign that we are slipping on our commitment, and can adjust accordingly before we hit the wall of failure. If we would just pay attention to those signs and proactively review the commitments we make we would realize if they are realistic.
Second rule of commitments.......see rule #1.
We often juggle many commitments in the air at the same time, if we pay attention to the warning signs we can avoid falling short on some commitments. Some may say that it is easier to not make any commitments you can’t keep easily. This may be true, but if you go through life not stretching yourself with commitments that force you to reach into new territory, you will remain in the same place, doing the same thing, and getting the same results you have always got.When you make true, realistic commitments that you stand behind 100%, and then achieve. You feel the satisfaction of success. You grow into a person of high esteem and value. You become the one that others look to as a person of high integrity.
Any commitment we make with ourselves must be realistic. Never confuse commitments with dreams, hopes, or wishes. When you make a realistic commitment it will become something that you can get behind 100% and keep no matter what obstacles life may throw at you.If you can’t keep commitments with yourself, you will never be able to keep commitments with others.
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